How to Impress a girl? The answer is dont.

How to Impress a girl?!

So obviously you came here because there is this special girl that you are trying to get to like you. Now your probably racking your brain right now trying to figure out how to impress this girl, right? You've tried everything and still coming up empty handed right?

I know this is going to sound dumb but its the honest truth, to impress a girl you must stop worrying about impressing her in the first place. Yes I said it, stop all together with the worrying and obsession of having to bribe your way for her love and affection. The reason you should stop worrying is because do you really want to be around a girl that is only around you because you are bending over backwords for her? Doing all the right things all the time to the point of exhaustion?!

Hey Ive been there and done that, heck I went broke physically and mentally trying to impress and it flat out sucked! I just didn't understand it, I was doing all the things beavers dad did in leave it to beaver and never any results from these girls! What was the answer? Well I figured it out, keep reading..

The reason you should stop worrying is because do you really want to be around a girl that is only around you because you are bending over backwords for her? Doing all the right things all the time to the point of exhaustion?!

It would be like your best buddy only hanging out with you because you buy him ciggarettes.

Let me just use an example, say your with this girl and you have been doing things to impress her for months, you have been bending over backwords for her approval and suddenly you slip up the act, you snap. Shes going to smell bullshit and your whole stupid plan will backfire. All that time supposedly doing "the right things" and bam nothing, its like putting money into a piggy bank with a whole at the bottom, a bottomless pitt of unhappiness.

I know several guys that pull this impressing a girl junk and the girls always seems to shit on them, literally. They are clueless when it comes to this, like deer in headlights, only to be used up and left on the side of the road. They will seriously go on and on, rant and rave about how they said the right things, did all the right things (open doors, smile, paid for the date etc) and still they aren't going home with the girls. They act like they are champs of the universe!

What do you think their problem is?

Are they ugly? Smelly? Dress horribly? Not buying expensive gifts for them?

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO, its none of these and sure as hell should not be buying any expensive gifts for a girl that you dont know you will even know a week from now, let alone another date.

The problem is none of the above, the true problem is they dont respect themselves.
Bottom line, no respect for yourself leaves you at the door like a door mat, girls walking all over you for the great benefits you provide, heck your a walking talking atm machine that they dont and wont even have to kiss! Oh, another perk of being a kiss-ass is holding their heavy bags from jcpennys, you bought it and you get to help lug it around the mall, how nice, NOT!

By doing all the cliche impressing tactics the girl will get annoyed and soon be too turned off to even give you a kiss on the cheek at the end of the night.

Now if your confused on why women would be turned off by overly impressing htem, well the answer is they are like you, yes they are girls and have boobs but they want a challenge you want, would you play a video game that has one difficulty and is extremely easy which each level being just as easy as before? I dont think you would infact, even if you tried it would get boring and predictable and you would be bound to burn the damn thing and throw it out the window. Girls dont want to mate with someone that is a pushover, they want to obtain something rare.

Why do you think women like the bad boys in movies and on tv? Its because they are being theirself, they dont try to impress. Those bad boys in movies and on tv are doing what they want and nobody is going to stop them nor give them permission to do so, they just do it. They have goals, dreams and they arent going to sugar coat things.

With the bad boy attitude (which really means just being yourself and doing the things you want when you want) attracts women and keeps them wanting you. The funny thing about the truth about impressing is that it takes even less effort to attract and impress women with this. I like to think of it as being a romantic bad boy. Being interesting, complicated, busy and yet being a lover, a sweety etc. This combination works best.

Impressing women is not suppose to be complicated we just make it complicated. There isn't a method or recipe thats going to help your chances 100%, the only method is sticking to you and what you truly are and what you truly want. Be yourself, put yourself first and at the same time always be sweet and caring to the girl you like. When you know what you want, you will find others wanting you.

I know I got kinda off topic but that happens, all and all I think I laid out some valuable things here. Hell Chances are you've got some homework to do, you need to apply what you read and experiement with it, try saying no for once, dont always say the same things, switch things up. Hang out with your guy friends, show her that you can lead. Gold is rare because its a challenge to find, be that gold and you'll never go wrong. So impress me by leaving the impressing in the garbage where it belongs!

A question to ask yourself: Are you attracted to real people or fake people and why? Let me know what you come up with in the comment section. Thanks - Trizz

Does she like me: How to act on your first date with a woman

Before reading make sure to check out these other articles that could assist you further:

Should I pay for the first date?
and
The best places to go on first dates and why.

Hey its Trizz here, hows things going? Great, now enough of the small talk lets get you laid, a girlfriend, a wife etc, grab a pen and some paper (even tha old crunched up receipt in your left pocket) and lets get started shall we? In this article I will teach you how to act on your first date with a woman, the reason why these things work is because they do, dont try to reason with these teaching or quearion them too deeply as you wont ever get your head around them and it would just delay yourself in making progress and succeeding with women.

The problem with thinking too hard about something is one, usually your thinking out of your ass and two its unproductive, I don't know why salad is green yet i eat it :) the same goes with these teachings. And like everything try these ideas and methods out before you knock them, I dont write because im trying to fill up empty sheets of paper and trick you, I write to help you and share what I know and figured out through my real life experiences with women. Thus you can then be the successful guy with women you know you can be without having to suffer the years of bullshit like I had to. Make me proud, experiment experiment experiment. Enjoy.

Why do you need to know how to act on your first date with a woman? Well the answer is simple if you act in the right way you will broaden your chances of success with her, thus giving you more dates in the future and her liking you etc. This is vital because you behaving correctly will sets the ground and stage for you as a whole, women like to know how a guy is inside and out and even though they seem to only look pretty superficially on what your saying and how you look (at first), you must use this to your advantage, be their dream man. 

Now the key is to project who you are in a precise and modest fashion, leaving the rest of the date about her. The reason why you want to use short yet precise words on the first date and not babble about yourself and how sweet your abs are is because you want to create attraction, propose a challenge thus making her want you and at the same time showing her that you are more interested in her than yourself. Remember we all love ourselves, hell most of lost our virginities to our hand but lets put ourselves to the side when it comes to a first date with a woman.

You want to create mystery because its attracting to a women to have a challenge, just as it is for you defeating the last boss in halo, there has to be a mission, an objective and what have you. There must be an accomplishment for them, to uh.. accomplish. Significance is always based on challenge. Let me ask you a question, if gold was found in your back yard and or as much as you see grass would it still be valuable? The answer is hell no, it would be just as worthless as shit on the grass, the reason why gold is valuable is because its rare, its rare becuase it takes A CHALLENGE to find it, dig it up, clean it etc (im no gold expert) you get what I mean. 

Heres a line you can right somewhere in your room or your hand cat etc "To attract you must detract".

The reason why not speaking A-TON is attracting is because it makes them think about you and wonder things "what is this guy all about?", "I really want to see him more and figure this puzzle out". Women like challenges, make her work for it, if you are a 5 piece kids puzzle, a women is going to get bored quick, thus killing the momentum and ruining your chances of being with them, getting sex etc. Remember the more a women thinks about you and keeps her mind on you the better a chance you have to embed deep into her and make her like you, want you and see you more often, hell it may even make her chase you ;) (noooo wouldn't want that would you?!).

Now how do you create this mystery on a first date? Its all about being more about them and keeping yourself for them to figure out. If you can master this it will always make you look mysterious aswell as you holding a high self value for yourself and also projecting to her that your not going to give yourself up for free. The main key is DONT GIVE EVERYTHING YOU GOT ALL THE TIME, if you do give everything you got all the time with a women it will make you look predictable, desperate and easy thus will leave you eating alone at applebees on a tuesday night. Now this mystery mindset is mainly a rule that you use when your initially attracting the women and thats why its vital on a first date etc, dont be doing this mysterious stuff when her birthday comes around etc you will only look like a dumbass and you will be misinterpreting my lessons big time. Your doing this to initially attract a women on a first date, once the attraction has been made (which it will if you do this correctly) you will be in married mode in no time (hehe).

As a guy I know how it feels when you got a crush on a girl, you want to tell them your whole life story but really, there will be time for that, the main thing you need to do is keep you mouth shut as much as possible and ask lots of questions to her. If she asks you "whats your favorite color?" (hopefully its not that question but you know what I mean) you say "you tell me yours first!". You see you are creating tension, creating attraction by not giving everything out at first, making her want to play your game.

Now this doesn't mean every question she asks you, you should play cute and give her a counter question, no no do this only half the time. The reason why you dont always want to answer her questions with a question is because if she doesn't learn ANYTHING about you then you failed, hell you could be put in the weird stalker catagory for all I know and have a restraining order placed on your ass. If your worried of that then when she does ask you questions (which she will) you respond with a nice informative sweet and short response, for example:

Her: "Where do you work?"
You: "im my own boss.." . 

You see even as your reading this you are wondering well what the heck does he do for a living, how does he afford things? how does he afford driving around? he must have to do well for himself to survive?! Thus forcing her to be more interested in you. Now on the flipside:

Her: "Where do you work?"

You: "im my own boss, i work buying newspapers from Stan Blume at popory lane down near this one really good sea food place that i must say has the best crab salad ive ever had, come to think of it, me and my family went deep sea diving last year at the Bahamas and it was insane, i am awesome at everything i do, you should see how strong i am...my veins pop out like Hulk Hogan, I love wrestling, lots of people think its fake but its totally real to me, my astrology sign is pices.." 

You see the difference, guy 2 will embarrassingly fail without a goodnight kiss, hug, look back you name it. If anything he will not attract the girl and at best will be marked as "friends only material". Notice the difference? The first response is modest, proposes a challenge and creates attraction all in one, yet the second date would have ended with her screaming the words "check!" and  "please!". Please dont be that guy, that guy doesn't get high quality women, he would need lots of cologne, hair-gel and alcohol to get even an elephant to listen to him.

The trick is both of those dudes were the same person, one of them was you before reading this and the other one is you after reading this. Let me tell you guy one got the girl, guy two went home and played WWE on his dreamcast and then resorted to some late night softcore porn.

Bonus tip: If your worried that you may talk too much on your first date with a woman, as a rule of thumb just think every 2 minutes she talks you shoudl talk for 30 seconds etc, dont put too much pressure on yourself as sometimes this rule will be broken.

Remember lets make your first date with a woman not your last date, have fun apply what you learned its the only way your going to start winning, action action action, attract attract attract. catch me back same time same place. -Trizz