Now if you have never heard of playing hard to get, the concept is very simple let me explain the concept. Playing hard to get promoted a challange and girls love challanges, they want what they cant have. Therefor you need to play hard to get to get the girls we want.
Playing hard to get is much like when you were little and you wanted a toy but your parents wouldn't buy it for you. You really wanted it after that and in a sense since you were denied the toy you wanted it even more. That is the basis of being hard to get. You must be exclusive, dont give alot of your time up for free you have to make her work for it.
Playing hard to get not only attracts the ladies but it also keeps than around for more!
To apply this in the real world you must act exclusive to the girl you like. Now I know it doesn't logicaly make sense to purposely blow off a girl but in the long run it sparks even more attraction because the girl is in the chase mode and that is very attractive! Chances are you may even realize why you like some women its probably because they are playing hard to get and let me tell you, you can play that game right back!
So heres some examples you can apply to playing hard to get with a girl you like:
1. When talking on the phone to a girl you like, always be the one to end the conversation first! I say this because you want to look like you have a life other than talking to her for hours on end. The reason you want to do this is because it will make you more attractive and it will leave her wanting more and this is what we want!
2. Dont always say yes to doing things that she wants to do. You want to switch it up, sometimes say yes other times say that you are busy and maybe some other time. The key is dont be an asshole just be assertive and let her know you have a thing for her but you have things you want to do too.
3. An effective technique is to compliment her and bash her at the same time. Something like "I like your hair but I dont like X" this keeps you being nice but at the same time not a kiss ass. This works wonderful!
4. People want what they cant have so make sure your not easily available all the time. Hint: your going to need to be available 50 % of the time otherwise you will be labeled as an asshole. 50% is a good number to go by!
5. Be flirtatious and at the same time guarded. Keep her guessing! This mix keeps you in the hard to get mode but will also benefit and make girls fall in love with you aswell!
Your final goal with playing hard to get is to get the girl you want. Once you get the girl you desire dont just quit playing hard to get but the choice is yours. Relationships evolve over time but dont forget what initialy attracted the girl you like to come your way. Totally changing your attitude on her will confuse her and make her regret things, so dont do that.
As you've learned playing hard to get makes you a bad boy and girls like bad boys because they cant be controlled, they are unpredictable and there is a chase that is attractive!
Playing hard to get is something you have to be consistent with, its not something you can try once to a girl and then the next time you see you go back to your kiss ass attitude NO! You must keep it up and let her know that thats how you are! If you slip up and forget how to act she is going to notice this and the attraction will be subtracted! So try as hard as you can to stay in character and soon it will come automatic and girls will be lineing up for your attention!
This is meant for an introduction to playing hard to get, More on playing hard to get in the future. trizz
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