Does she like me: How to act on your first date with a woman

Before reading make sure to check out these other articles that could assist you further:

Should I pay for the first date?
and
The best places to go on first dates and why.

Hey its Trizz here, hows things going? Great, now enough of the small talk lets get you laid, a girlfriend, a wife etc, grab a pen and some paper (even tha old crunched up receipt in your left pocket) and lets get started shall we? In this article I will teach you how to act on your first date with a woman, the reason why these things work is because they do, dont try to reason with these teaching or quearion them too deeply as you wont ever get your head around them and it would just delay yourself in making progress and succeeding with women.

The problem with thinking too hard about something is one, usually your thinking out of your ass and two its unproductive, I don't know why salad is green yet i eat it :) the same goes with these teachings. And like everything try these ideas and methods out before you knock them, I dont write because im trying to fill up empty sheets of paper and trick you, I write to help you and share what I know and figured out through my real life experiences with women. Thus you can then be the successful guy with women you know you can be without having to suffer the years of bullshit like I had to. Make me proud, experiment experiment experiment. Enjoy.

Why do you need to know how to act on your first date with a woman? Well the answer is simple if you act in the right way you will broaden your chances of success with her, thus giving you more dates in the future and her liking you etc. This is vital because you behaving correctly will sets the ground and stage for you as a whole, women like to know how a guy is inside and out and even though they seem to only look pretty superficially on what your saying and how you look (at first), you must use this to your advantage, be their dream man. 

Now the key is to project who you are in a precise and modest fashion, leaving the rest of the date about her. The reason why you want to use short yet precise words on the first date and not babble about yourself and how sweet your abs are is because you want to create attraction, propose a challenge thus making her want you and at the same time showing her that you are more interested in her than yourself. Remember we all love ourselves, hell most of lost our virginities to our hand but lets put ourselves to the side when it comes to a first date with a woman.

You want to create mystery because its attracting to a women to have a challenge, just as it is for you defeating the last boss in halo, there has to be a mission, an objective and what have you. There must be an accomplishment for them, to uh.. accomplish. Significance is always based on challenge. Let me ask you a question, if gold was found in your back yard and or as much as you see grass would it still be valuable? The answer is hell no, it would be just as worthless as shit on the grass, the reason why gold is valuable is because its rare, its rare becuase it takes A CHALLENGE to find it, dig it up, clean it etc (im no gold expert) you get what I mean. 

Heres a line you can right somewhere in your room or your hand cat etc "To attract you must detract".

The reason why not speaking A-TON is attracting is because it makes them think about you and wonder things "what is this guy all about?", "I really want to see him more and figure this puzzle out". Women like challenges, make her work for it, if you are a 5 piece kids puzzle, a women is going to get bored quick, thus killing the momentum and ruining your chances of being with them, getting sex etc. Remember the more a women thinks about you and keeps her mind on you the better a chance you have to embed deep into her and make her like you, want you and see you more often, hell it may even make her chase you ;) (noooo wouldn't want that would you?!).

Now how do you create this mystery on a first date? Its all about being more about them and keeping yourself for them to figure out. If you can master this it will always make you look mysterious aswell as you holding a high self value for yourself and also projecting to her that your not going to give yourself up for free. The main key is DONT GIVE EVERYTHING YOU GOT ALL THE TIME, if you do give everything you got all the time with a women it will make you look predictable, desperate and easy thus will leave you eating alone at applebees on a tuesday night. Now this mystery mindset is mainly a rule that you use when your initially attracting the women and thats why its vital on a first date etc, dont be doing this mysterious stuff when her birthday comes around etc you will only look like a dumbass and you will be misinterpreting my lessons big time. Your doing this to initially attract a women on a first date, once the attraction has been made (which it will if you do this correctly) you will be in married mode in no time (hehe).

As a guy I know how it feels when you got a crush on a girl, you want to tell them your whole life story but really, there will be time for that, the main thing you need to do is keep you mouth shut as much as possible and ask lots of questions to her. If she asks you "whats your favorite color?" (hopefully its not that question but you know what I mean) you say "you tell me yours first!". You see you are creating tension, creating attraction by not giving everything out at first, making her want to play your game.

Now this doesn't mean every question she asks you, you should play cute and give her a counter question, no no do this only half the time. The reason why you dont always want to answer her questions with a question is because if she doesn't learn ANYTHING about you then you failed, hell you could be put in the weird stalker catagory for all I know and have a restraining order placed on your ass. If your worried of that then when she does ask you questions (which she will) you respond with a nice informative sweet and short response, for example:

Her: "Where do you work?"
You: "im my own boss.." . 

You see even as your reading this you are wondering well what the heck does he do for a living, how does he afford things? how does he afford driving around? he must have to do well for himself to survive?! Thus forcing her to be more interested in you. Now on the flipside:

Her: "Where do you work?"

You: "im my own boss, i work buying newspapers from Stan Blume at popory lane down near this one really good sea food place that i must say has the best crab salad ive ever had, come to think of it, me and my family went deep sea diving last year at the Bahamas and it was insane, i am awesome at everything i do, you should see how strong i am...my veins pop out like Hulk Hogan, I love wrestling, lots of people think its fake but its totally real to me, my astrology sign is pices.." 

You see the difference, guy 2 will embarrassingly fail without a goodnight kiss, hug, look back you name it. If anything he will not attract the girl and at best will be marked as "friends only material". Notice the difference? The first response is modest, proposes a challenge and creates attraction all in one, yet the second date would have ended with her screaming the words "check!" and  "please!". Please dont be that guy, that guy doesn't get high quality women, he would need lots of cologne, hair-gel and alcohol to get even an elephant to listen to him.

The trick is both of those dudes were the same person, one of them was you before reading this and the other one is you after reading this. Let me tell you guy one got the girl, guy two went home and played WWE on his dreamcast and then resorted to some late night softcore porn.

Bonus tip: If your worried that you may talk too much on your first date with a woman, as a rule of thumb just think every 2 minutes she talks you shoudl talk for 30 seconds etc, dont put too much pressure on yourself as sometimes this rule will be broken.

Remember lets make your first date with a woman not your last date, have fun apply what you learned its the only way your going to start winning, action action action, attract attract attract. catch me back same time same place. -Trizz

Does she like me tip #4 Can ugly guys get hot girls?

Ugly guys cant get hot girls but ugly guys with certain attitudes and edge can and can out succeed anyone! So if you feel that you are in that oh so lovely "ugly" bracket, read read read.

Remember what I said in past articles, looks are only a small fraction of the picture to girls. Thank god if not the human race could not survive lol! With that said, looks don't matter all that much. You just need an interesting style, filled with confidence, cockiness and sweetness.

Go to the mall and walk around for 5 minutes, i guarantee you, you will find an odd looking couple where the guy looks ugly but the girl looks really hot. This is everywhere! It makes you wonder "What the hell am I doing wrong!" Some of those guys you would think paid the girls to hang out with them, or they bought some kind of magical pill that makes him get anyone he wants! But this is not the case he has something else and its not something you can buy its something that can be learned.

Well anyways when you see that odd couple what do you notice the guy has? Maybe good style maybe something distinct about him, he may be tall, short, has really big hair, is built etc. Those are the external things you will notice. So chances are he also has a good personality and this is what we want to focus on.

Good personality doesn't mean you have to a nice guy, in fact you should only focus on using an effective personality edge that makes you appear different kind of like something that stands out.

See those ugly guys you see with hot girls walking around in the mall have something really good on the inside and that is their personality. Personality is what sets you apart from the good looking guys and gets you dating the hot girls.

Now let me explain some personality traits you need to adopt to your personality:

Confidence is one of the most important things when it comes to getting a girlfriend etc. If you don't have any confidence which most of you guys may not(since you are here :)) you need to fake it till you make it. Meaning fake your confidence until you start getting the idea.

A good way to work on your confidence with women is start flirting with ugly girls. Flirting with ugly girls will let you experiment with ease, build up good techniques than move on to the hotties. Its best to do this because it gets used to whole idea and once you have the idea down there is no stopping you. You will realize when you have confidence everything comes easy even rejection. When you have confidence you can do whatever you want and not let fear control you.

Cockiness, that's right you need to be (a little) cocky. I say this because cockiness makes things interesting and competitive. Its challenging to the women and it keeps them hooked on to you.

Now being sweet within confident and cocky brings it all together, its the glue that holds it all as one. I say this because without a little bit of sweetie in you, you would be seen as a conceded ugly ass and that's not what we want. Being sweet completes the image because deep down you have to have a sweet spot for the women to want to get emotional with you. Being sweet is what wins there heart. Its the cherry on top. So focus on backing up everything you do by pure sweetness. Being sweet makes the girls know that you aren't a dick and you in fact do have a heart for them. Im going to go in detail with a certain game but for now focus on those 3 things!

Some bonus tips: Now that you got confidence, cockiness and sweetness down you need to find a physical edge to go along with it to attract the ladies. First you need to target what the ladies you like, like. What is attracting to the type of women you like? You need to know what the girls you are attracted to go after. Do you like girls that have tattoos? Then maybe you should show off some of your tattoo's. If the ladies you like are into sports dress like that. The most effective outside edge though is going to be coming from what you really like, this is going to make the easiest transition because it doesn't take much work lol. You are what you are but at the same time that may not attract the girls you want.

Physical attraction is like a billboard, you promote what you are about by how you dress and look. So focus on what will represent you as something datable and not a joke. You don't want girls to disrespect you, you want them to respect your authority as a guy. So act in such a manner that will get you respect. To do this you must give respect when necessary.

Don't think of these character traits as changes that need to be made but more as enhancements to what you already have.

Having some physical traits that are attracting will make it a little easier at first im not going to lie but once the girl gets to know you, your looks aren't going to do the relationship work, your personality is. So do as much as you can to adopt these personality traits. Work on your personality and the hot girls will fall in place for you with ease! Can ugly guys get hot girls, most certainly!


Coming soon: Advanced mini lesson #3 How to take your friends girlfriend

Does she like me tip #4 How to really succeed at a first date on a budget

Having a successful first date all comes down to your objectives, what are you trying to accomplish with this date? Depending on what you want is what you should do. If you want success and a long-term girlfriend you need to make sure you follow these tips. There's a time to impress and there a time to be real, first dates require a bit of both but more on the real side if you are going for a long-term relationship but I'll get to that in a minute.

To have a good first date you must put in a little bit of preparation. No this doesn't mean you need to take hours out of your day or spend a lot of money. In fact you don't want to spend that much money at all. I will explain this a little later on why but first lets dive into some date preparation.

First off lets talk about your looks. You are going to want to look sharp but lets not overdue it. I say that because yes looks are important don't get me wrong but you want to have your personality be the best thing you have going for you because that's what wins people over. Good looks are just an added bonus. We all know this to be true, there is some good looking women but do they have nice personality, heck no! So stay away from solely relying on looks because looks don't matter as much in the long-term scheme of things.

I got off topic a bit there but what I said is important. Depending on if its a blind date or you already know this girl, Simply look your best but not too far off from how you would normally dress. The only exceptions are if you are going to a fancy restaurant and as you may not know this is bad for a first date. Simply because its highly pressured, awkward, stuffy and its not good enough atmosphere for great conversation. What i recommend is going to a nice coffee place having a cup of coffee, sitting in a nice comfy seat and just have fun talking and getting to know each other. This will be more effective than going on 5 dates at fancy restaurants and its cheaper too!

The whole point of going on dates is to learn as much as you can about the girl so you can figure out if you want to invest in any more time with her or move on. That is the purpose so get down with talking talking and more talking. This approach is much better because you aren't going to waste each-others time, you will easily realize that shes not for you after one long coffee date, in fact i guarantee it! Once you realize the true reason for going on dates you will start to get it. This is where a lot of guys go wrong, they do all the cliche things to impress but it doesn't hold any real substance, its the BS way to do dates. None of that flashy stuff ends up getting you the girl, it just wastes time, funds and its an easy way to get used.

A girl that you want to date is one that would be happy to go to McDonald's. Seriously this is the type of girl you want! Low maintenance is key! No you don't have to be a cheapskate and im not saying you should be but just be conscious on what you want. Know you don't want to have to always have to impress her she should be content just to be hanging out with you, because you are a cool guy. Having that attitude on the date along with making her feel special is a good game plan. Everything with moderation!

Budget dating can be really interesting because it instantly makes you creative and creativity is where its at to keep a girl interested. You know how people say they would rather have a hand written card then a store bought one? Its works the say with dates, get creative and she will love you for it trust me! Instead of going to the entertainment (movies and expensive shows), you are the entertainment so keep it interesting random but not too random where its creepy or you are seen as unstable :).

Okay that was a lot of rambling but again very necessary details that I will go in further detail later! So anyways getting back focused with the date, here is the game plan:

• First look sharp but don't go too far from your natural style you want to show an polished yet accurate version of yourself because it shows the real you and you want her to like the real you.
• Put on the clothes you feel comfortable with. Pick her up of course, open her door for her(make her feel special give her a nice UNIQUE compliment when you first see her)
• Use what you learned in the recent articles about body language, actions and using the various techniques from "Going from a friend to a boyfriend". Doing this is vital! I mean VITAL don't bother reading any more if you haven't read those short guides first as these are going to be special advantages during the date, giving you an unstoppable edge
• During date make sure not to talk to much about yourself, this isn't all about you its about your girl you are pursuing so if you really want to pursue her ask questions about her! It only makes sense!
  
• The first date is going to be a little nerve racking at first but this is something that will pass soon so take in those feelings and bask yourself in it, as its not going to be lasting long.
• Make sure to pay for her coffee or dinner depending on what you decided.
• I'm going to reiterate about where to take her on the date. Dinners is too much eating and face it no ones going to be actually eating the food. You and your date are going to be far to nervous to indulge in the steak dinner you decided to order.
  
• Going to the movies can be fun but its not too engaging as far as getting to know each other, stick to face to face things this is pretty romantic. Get creative! If the dates going good take her to the park afterwords or something intellectually engaging.
  
• Dont kiss her on the first date even though its tempting, you have to fight it. It sounds lame but you do this because its romantic. If you want kiss her cheek, this will keep her wondering and will keep her on the edge(which will make her think about you all night). Another reason why not to kiss her on the first date is because it creates mystery and is attractive, it keeps her guessing.
• Be unpredictable, i cant stress that enough you dont want her to be able to predict every move you make.
  

Lastly have low expectations, have fun. There is nothing to loose and a lot to gain. This is the way to think when it comes to first dates, its the thinking that will provide you with the least negative emotions. If it works it works, dating is like a puzzle piece if you and her don't fit, you cant make it fit. Its gotta be mutual like Koolaid and water. Both people provide a vital ingredient to a very yummy recipe!


I hope this helps a lot, until next time - trizz

Coming soon: Advanced mini lesson #1: Attract Girls Using Props

Does she like me tip #1 Body language

"Does she like me?" is quite possibly the most common question when it comes to dating. Sometimes we just have no clue! Lets face it, It can really be a confusing thing trying to figure out if a girl you like, likes you back.

When it comes to dating the one of the most valuable things you can do to figure out if she likes you is body language. I think a lot of guys forget about this when they think about women. In reality Body language is more than 50% of a conversation its probably close to 75%! Its a hidden language that is a true way of telling you if she likes you. Note: once you know how to read her body language you will really start to master it, and over time you will have success to see if she really likes you or not. This can be a road map for us idiots!

Body language signs to tell if she likes you:

• Eye contact- does she hold eye contact for long periods of time during with you in conversations or does she look away into the distance uncomfortably?
• Arms and legs- Is her arms and legs crossed or in awkward positions? Or are they relaxed? You want them to be relaxed!
• Posture check- Is she leaning towards you or away? You want this to be towards you!
• Space- Does she let you in her space? Does she let you get close to her or away?
• Does she touch you while talking? Think about it people don't go touching anyone, if she is touching you in conversation chances are she likes you!

So next time you ask yourself "does she like me?" think about her body language and you can never go wrong!

Coming soon: Does she like me tip 2# Its all about girls actions